No Hurts, Stick Together and Have Fun!

These are the three rules that children learn in “Sunshine Circles”. Sunshine Circles are evidenced-based, social-emotional development groups for early childhood students. Each school day, trained volunteers from the community or school spend about 10 minutes or so connecting with the students in large and small groups. They welcome each child to the group, they sing a playful song, they might rub hand lotion into their hands, they may have them blow a feather to each other.

The idea is to engage with the students in a group and one on one in ways that are cooperative and supportive to the children. It is a way for kids who don’t have a lot of joy in their lives or may not feel good about themselves to laugh and feel confident. It is particularly healing for the students that have difficulty managing their emotions and behavior at school, which of course can make learning challenging.

Regina E. McCarthy signing books

The children are taught how to self-regulate their bodies with these activities. How to calm the nervous system and feel safe, especially when in unsafe places. And how to laugh and be playful in healthy ways with the other students. These skills can be used not only in the classroom but everywhere.

Classrooms are found to be healthier and the students get along better with each other and with the staff. The students feel good about themselves and learn good social skills. It’s a win-win all around. Can you imagine if we were all taught this as a child? I know I would be a different adult today.

I learned all this when I brought Courageous Gilbert the Groundhog to the Association for Children and Adolescent Counselors of Illinois’s first annual conference. The theme was Helping Children and Adolescents Thrive. Dr. Catherine Tucker of The Theraplay Institute in Evanston, IL, taught us about Sunshine Circles. They have programs for families as well and are recommended by some of the biggest names in the trauma healing world such as Daniel Siegel, M.D., Bessel van der Kolk, M.D., Stephen Porges, Ph.D., and Eliana Gil, Ph.D.

The conference was well attended by School Social Workers, Teachers, School Counselors, Psychotherapists, and Play Therapists. I met new therapists and reconnected with an adoring Courageous Gilbert Fan. She came to say ‘Hi” and began telling others how much she loved my book and how she uses daily it with her students, and parents. It really touched my heart to hear of her successes with my book and her enthusiasm for its value.

If you are interested in bringing Sunshine Circles to your school or want more information, please check out their website:

I hope you add some playful fun to your day today.

Be well, Regina.

Regina E. McCarthy
Regina E. McCarthy
Regina E. McCarthy is president and owner of Blue Stone Healing Center in the Chicago area. She works with clients at the holistic level, helping them to heal at their deepest level. Regina is passionate about the work she does and feels extremely honored to be part of her clients healing journey. She is married and has three children. Her kids are her heroes because they constantly teach her courage, to be who she is, and not to worry about what others think of her. It takes courage to show your vulnerability.